Hey there girls and boys, how’s it going? I’m Clark, the founder and writer for self-help-books-lover.com (this website, duh!). Welcome back to my 30-day personal development challenge/case study. Before starting Day 10, you may have a look at my Day 9 activities and findings (if any). In my quest to raise and maintain my vibration (good feelings) at the very highest level, I have been reading A New Earth: Awakening to your Life’s purpose, among other activities. Today let me put down more trains of thought that I received while reading this good book.
A Feeling of Discontent
Do you believe that something needs to happen before you can be happy? That is a very common form of negativity. Perhaps you think that you have to ‘make it’, become successful, become financially independent, or become famous, and that would solve everything, and you would be happy. But it doesn’t work that way.
There’s a story that goes like this (short version): A miserable person who won the lottery became miserable again after six months of winning the lottery, the only difference now is that he’s a rich miserable person. Another person who is an optimistic bugger suffered some kind of grave misfortune in life, but after six months he is back to being an optimistic bugger without a job, or without a wife, for example.
It’s been said that happiness brings all the things you desire in life, rather than the other way around. And since the reason we want money and well-being and lovers and everything else is to be happy, if we could somehow allow ourselves to be happy now, then we would already have all we want. Isn’t it?
Another very common form of negativity is harboring ill-will towards another person due to some event that happened in the past. This is not easy to overcome, of course, because despite our best intentions we will often hear a word spoken, or happen to see something, that brings our memory back to that day/event/person. And off we go again, getting upset and promising to the world that we’ll be nasty the next time it happens to us. “No more Mr. Nice Guy/Girl.” If you do that a lot, it might be holding you back from advancing in life. Not only does this adversely affect the health of your body, feeling bad just brings more bad things into your life. Plus if you’re thinking resentful thoughts it means you’re not using this time to think thoughts of appreciation.
Recognizing the Negativity in Us
So what should we do when such negativity happens? Now that we’re aware of these negativities, the next time it happens, often subtly, we can recognize it. Then what we can do is choose to think about something else. Or maybe we can choose to sit down, relax and meditate.
It’s said that just recognizing negativity in ourselves when it occurs is enough to dissolve it. Because when we are observing the negativity, we are not the negativity. We have separated ourselves from it.
Alright, Girls and Boys, Stay Tuned for the Next Part!
It’s time to bring this day to a close. Thank you for your readership, and for your company on this journey. I know when this is published I would already be further along my 30-day challenge, but I could sense you readers with me as I’m typing this! Keep an eye out for the next part, remember to subscribe to my emails, and leave your questions/comments below if you have them. Till the next time, thanks a lot!