A beginner’s guide to TANTRA


a-beginners-guide-to-tantra-2Mention tantra, and you would probably imagine exotic lovemaking for hours to sitar music and on an oriental rug. However, tantra actually covers all aspects of life, including health, belief and philosophy. Tantric sex is the sexual side of tantra, but people have come to understand the two terms as synonymous.

Read on for a beginner’s guide to tantra (including tantric sex).


Tantra is a Way of Life


Tantra is a set of spiritual beliefs about one’s self and the universe, and practices for integrating the mind, body and soul, that originated in India over 2000 years ago. People who practice Tantra are called Tantrikas.

Tantrikas will tell you that love is at the very heart of Tantra. The practices work to create conditions necessary for love to flourish and endure. They quiet the mind, open your awareness to sensation, raise your energy vibration, and help you cultivate a sacred attitude towards yourself, others and events in your life. At the end of a practice, if done correctly, you should be filled with bliss and full of vibrant energy. Doing Tantric practices lets you connect with what is present and what you want to create in your life. When you achieve states of presence, energy flow, relaxation, harmony, and connection, love emerges and opens the heart.


It is said that Tantra assists you in realizing your full potential as a human being. You will transform your life and discover bliss. Tantric principles and practices can be applied to all areas of life, including your health and emotional well-being, sex and relationships, and spirituality.

The benefits of Tantric practices include terrific sexual fulfillment, deeper connection and intimacy in your relationships, emotional harmony and balance, endless health and vitality, enhanced intuition + inspiration, boundless love, and playful, ecstatic awareness.


And Now We Come to Tantric Sex


Tantric sex is about Consciousness. For most people the focus during sex is on the end goal – the orgasm. We get so lost in the rush to get there that we lose out on the pleasure of the journey. The idea of Tantra is simply to be present with your partner, to acknowledge each other and the love you share.

Here is a simple tantric “sexercise”:

1) Clothes off, begin by sitting on his lap, facing him, and wrapping your legs around his waist. Gaze into each other’s eyes. In each session, focus on one (and only one) of your partner’s eyes. It is often said that the eyes are the windows to the soul, thus looking into your partner’s eyes and him looking into yours gives you both the opportunity to share a soul connection, to go beyond the physical into something deep and special.

a-beginners-guide-to-tantra2) Next, synchronize your breathing. Breathe in together, exhale together. Do this for at least 5 minutes.

3) Next, move into “breath exchange”. You inhale when he exhales, and exhale when he inhales, as though you’re breathing each other in. Do this for at least 10 minutes.

4) Move into kissing and caressing. In time, begin slow intercourse, but continue caressing and kissing. Keep eye contact. As you become more proficient, you may develop the ability for prolonged orgasm, where you remain at the peak of ecstatic pleasure without climaxing. There are all the feelings of a typical orgasm, but it lasts for many minutes (or even hours). This leads to profound sexual and emotional merging.

Having a reverence for your partner is at the core of Tantric sex. Of course it also enables you to reach new heights of sexual pleasure and even tap your heightened sexual energy for creative use in other areas of your life.

A Final Word..


Cultivating states of presence, energy flow, relaxation, harmony, and connection is not always easy. A lifetime of negative experiences has gradually limited our ability to be present and to love fully and freely. In a gentle yet powerful way, Tantric practices break up and wash away residues of our past that hold us back from unlimited love and intimacy.

The wonderful world of Tantra offers us a way of life, of love, and of having amazing sex. Above all else, the goal of any Tantric experience is love, joy and inspiration.

P.S. If you are seriously keen to learn more tantra, my recommendation is Psalm Isadora’s Tantra for Beginners. Psalm is a highly sought after Tantra, sex and relationship, and trauma expert who has reached over 66 million homes as the star of Playboy TV’s reality show Cougar Club. As a child, Psalm went through years of sexual trauma, which led her into a downward spiral of anxiety and depression. At some point it was so bad she had gained 30 pounds, was a single mom and had no drive or energy to do anything with her life. She decided to travel to India in 2007, where she found deep “sexual healing” in Tantra and yoga. She now works to teach tens of thousands of people across the world how to truly live a fiercely authentic and happy life by reclaiming their sexuality.



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The Soulmate Secret, by Arielle Ford – Manifesting love into your life with the Law of Attraction


Book, Author: The Soulmate Secret, by Arielle Ford
Who is it for:
For those looking for their soulmate
Cheapest place to buy:
Price: $9.99 onwards
90 out of 100 (Highly recommended!)


The Soulmate Secret, by Arielle Ford guides you in letting go of past hurts and manifesting love into your life today. Written in a way that is practical, inspiring and hopeful, The Soulmate Secret will guide you in finding your One.

Do you believe in Soulmates?


If you do not believe in the idea of a soulmate, or you think attracting the perfect person into your life is utter nonsense, then this book is for you!

A soulmate is “someone with whom you share a deep and profound connection and feel that you can completely be yourself. Someone you love unconditionally, and who loves you unconditionally, and when you look into their eyes you have the experience of being at home.”

In The Soulmate Secret, Arielle Ford, the woman who helped launch the careers of Deepak Chopra, Neale Donald Walsch and Jack Canfield, shows you how to use the law of attraction to deliver your soulmate… to your front doorstep.

Right off the bat this book asks that you accept full responsibility for being ‘unlucky’ in love thus far. That you and your current state of mind is the barrier that is stopping your soulmate from showing up. There is a reason you keep attracting the wrong person. Find out why and then stop doing it.

What’s Inside This Book


A most practical read, this book suggests a host of activities to get you into relationship shape, including feng shui tips!

For example, this book teaches you to clear out the clutter. Then you might want to clear the energy of past loves from your home, using the Native American technique called smudging. Next you want to physically create space – for instance, making sure that the nightstand on ‘their’ side of the bed is completely empty. This sends a message to the Universe that you literally have space in your life for another. Throw away those sheets that are still around from a few relationships ago. Make a vision board of what you want your soulmate to be like. Many more.

the-soulmate-secret-by-arielle-ford-2But the most interesting and important of all is the series of Feelingizations™ exercises. They are better known as visualizations, but the author has renamed them Feelingizations™, based on the principle that it is the feeling and not the image that holds the power to attract. Seeing the outcome you want doesn’t work without strong emotions behind them. If the act of visualizing your desire brings up more feelings of anxiety, and frustration of not having it than it does of joyful anticipation, then it will not happen. In order to manifest our desire we need to feel that what we have asked for is already ours. You can try out some Feelingizations™ for free at http://www.arielleford.com/feelingizations.

Arguably, the most hopeful part of the book is the “love stories” of people who followed some of the steps recommended in the book and found their soulmate. We’ve got people meeting on planes, in gyms, in snowstorms… One man woke up one morning with a random phone number running through his head – and when he called it was a woman living 50 miles away. They met for coffee and have been together ever since.

Get it at Amazon


Amazon is one of the largest retailers in the world and therefore able to offer competitive pricing and even used books. The last time I checked, the Kindle edition is $9.99 (Amazon provides free Kindle reading apps), the paperback is $12.17 and the hardcover $23.99. Used books will be cheaper.

In Conclusion…


This book is perfect for those who are ready for a loving yet passionate lasting relationship. It’s pretty much a step-by-step guide to finding your own happily ever after… The Soulmate Secret may just be the antidote to your soulmate-less life that you’ve been looking for.

And that is all from me. Please feel free to share this post with your friends and family, and if you have any questions or comments just let me know in the comment box below and I will get back to you ASAP. See you around!