Hey there… and welcome back to the continuation of my “Breaking a Habit” series, a.k.a. the “Habits and How to Change Them” series. I’m Clark, and here we look at more ways on how to change a paradigm. As mentioned before in the series, paradigms are mental patterns and the way we habitually think. And how we think determines what we do. Therefore, in order to change a habit, it would make sense to go straight to the source which is the paradigms.
Take the First Step
When you’re not used to (thinking or doing) something, there will be a tendency to either think in a negative way about it as well as to avoid doing it. Your mind will start coming up with excuses to put it off until the next time or not to do it altogether. Sometimes your mind might even react with aggression to the idea. And sometimes this resistance manifests in your reality, for example you’re feeling a strong intention to do something, then some problem crops up out of nowhere that needs your attention and you tend to that until your intention becomes weaker. Yes, it happened to me a lot.
However, you’re born with willpower. So what I suggest is use that willpower to take the first step into the unknown and immerse yourself in the new habit, the one that you want to instill in your life. If something happens before you could take that very first step, be aware that it’s happening; that immediately helps to strengthen your intention and gives you additional resolve to do it later once you have tended to your immediate concern.
In my case, I am quite the creature of habit. When I am already in the middle of something, I find it hard to stop. So if you dare to take that first step, you start to feel the enjoyment of doing it, you get the momentum going. And then on the next day, you do it again (and it should be easier the second time).
Do Affirmations Work?
Subliminal technology is said to be able to help us change our mental patterns. For example, a subliminal tool could be an audio which contains positive affirmations, new thoughts that you would like to have. You could also come up with your own affirmations. For example, “I am stronger than any bad habit” or “I am constantly inspired with new ideas”. Then repeat it to yourself over and over with feeling, really believing what you’re saying/thinking.
However, there have been claims that affirmations are good for you only if you are already feeling great. If you’re feeling not that great, they will just be an annoyance. So if you intend to practice affirmations, I would suggest a quiet, calm place where you wouldn’t be disturbed and to allow yourself ample time to fully immerse yourself in it. And as mentioned in the previous part, meditation is a method that can make you feel really great. Go read it!
That’s Part 4!
OK, that’s it for today. I hope you’ve enjoyed this very much, and do not hesitate to let me know what you think of it in the comment box below. Subscribe to my emails and you’ll receive a free book! Stay tuned for the next part. Till the next time. Thanks a lot!
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