The benefits of believing in yourself

Do you remember what life was like when you were a kid? When you learnt to walk for the first time? You kept getting back up no matter how many times you fell, believing that eventually you will be able to walk. Such belief somehow came so naturally to us back then. Then you grew up and were told by well-meaning people that you couldn’t do this and that, and a whole lot of other things, and after a while you started believing in those words..


I woke up today and just felt like I had to write a post on this topic, but before I launch myself into a list of the benefits of believing in yourself, let me share something that I read in one of Arielle Ford’s newsletter. She’s the author of The Soulmate Secret, a book that I have read and love.

Believe in Your Own Product

Below you’ll find an analogy that came from Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends and Influence People” and was republished in Ford’s newsletter:  

Imagine a car salesman. He’s trying to get you to buy something from him, but the way he’s doing it is having the opposite effect:

“Um, so, I know you’re probably really busy today, but maybe, I don’t know, you might want to consider buying a Toyota Camry. Sure, it’s a little bit more expensive than other cars, and yeah, the economy is down, and yeah, you can probably get something just as good that is pre-owned. But maybe you want to test drive a Camry anyway?

No? You don’t? I kind of figured you’d say that. After all, there are tons of cars that are nicer looking, get better mileage, and have better resale value.

Wait – don’t go! I mean, you can go if you think there are any other cars you’d like better, but maybe you’d still like to buy a car from me today? I mean, I don’t take it personally if you leave – okay, that’s not true. I will take it personally if you leave, because I’m really quite desperate to sell a car this month and I haven’t had anyone buy from me in a really long time, and—“

Isn’t it painful listening to that? Isn’t it painful going out with someone like that?

Ford’s message is clear – Why would you buy a car from a guy who doesn’t believe in his own product? Do you believe in your own product? Do you think that guy or girl would be a fool to go out with anyone else?


On a lighter note, here comes the List!

I’ve found that readers love lists! So I did some research and came up with a list of the benefits of believing in yourself:

1) Deep down inside, you know you can do anything

2) It allows you to take risks. You would not be afraid of trying something new (and what’s life without a little risk?)

3) You’re optimistic about the future as you set goals and go about achieving them

4) You have faith, no matter what challenges await you

5) You’ll feel motivated to get things done

6) You treat yourself kindly

7) Others will be attracted to you

8) You’ll feel happier and more satisfied with life

9) You stop sweating the small stuff, and begin to see and appreciate the wonders around you

Believe in Yourself Again

Yup, we used to believe in ourselves when we were kids, but we lost that when we grew older and less-wiser. If you would like to rediscover that magic you have when you were young, then read How to Believe in Yourself Again. Else…

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12 thoughts on “The benefits of believing in yourself”

  1. Yes, I think that if we listen to what others tell us we will never accomplish anything. And we can also become our own biggest enemy. But it takes skill to be able to filter what others tell us (and receive constructive points) and also to filter what we tell ourselves. We may come up with some strange ideas from time to time, so it’s good to be able to discard what’s nonsense.

    • I love this comment of yours. It’s so on point and reading it inspired me. It’s great to receive feedback and improve on something as long as we don’t put ourselves down. Look at everything that didn’t go well as an opportunity to do something better and take another step towards our desires instead of placing blame on or berating ourselves.

  2. Thank you for sharing such an interesting topic about self help. I am sure that all of us started to believe in our abilities ever since we grew up. It is just the way that the social context works that we cannot do this or that that we follow that pattern. I agree, believing in yourself and having confidence will help you go through anything. 

    • Well said, society has certain expectations about what we can or should achieve. And those who dare to step outside its expectations – they are ridiculed, messed with, shunned.

      When we believe in something and take inspired action towards it, by law (of attraction) it must come. However, this was never taught or even hinted at in school. I mean, don’t quit your job just yet, but start to dream big.

  3. Awesome post. Not believing in yourself and quitting is the #1 reason why people fail. What do you think are the main factors in people losing belief in themselves? Do you think it’s something like willpower or just some people want success more than others? These are pretty abstract questions I know but I was just curious on your thoughts.

    • It is because of paradigms – our subconscious patterns.
      Most of these patterns we acquire when we were just a child. That was when our conscious mind filter was off and we accepted whatever ideas that our well-meaning parents and relatives gave us – like “money does not grow on trees”, and so on. Children that were brought up with praise usually go on to believe in themselves, and become great leaders.

  4. I really enjoyed reading your page. I am quite a happy person at heart and I think you definitely made me realize how believing in myself has given me all this good fortune that I have had in my life. I LOVE your bullet form list! Makes it easy and quick to read.

    Thanks so much for a great read.

  5. Totally agree!!

    The book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway is interestingly a book I’ve never read, probably because the title said it all.

    Believe in yourself for sure. That said make sure it’s a passion and secondly a passion that can be monetized. Then you’ll never work another day in your life!!

  6. Hi,
    Believing in yourself can be very hard at times. We fail many times, we get smashed and struck to the ground and eventually all these negative experiences lead to losing belief in one’s self. It’s not just saying “I believe in myself”, one has to believe it and know it by heart, in order to achieve all the benefits you mentioned in the list up there. Great topic btw, I’ll have to follow the other article that you linked to at the bottom and see what else you have to say.


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